Hello Everyone. Nice to see you are all back this week!
I want to send out my deepest condolences to the victims and the families of the horrific shooting in Santa Barbara. It is a tragedy that these type of events have become the norm in this country!
Do we need stricter gun laws? Is this Hollywood, music, and pop culture to blame? The over saturation of guns, violence, sex in movies, television, video games and music has become the norm, but why are we the only country acting this way? Clearly other countries have access to this same type of entertainment, so what's the deal?
I'm not going to answer those questions because I think there is a bigger problem that needs to be addressed right now. The issue is with some of the men who are agreeing and taking the side of the shooter - that if women stopped playing hard to get. If only they gave men a chance and stopped being so prudish. Really? Women have the right to say NO to whomever they want. And they shouldn't be ridiculed for that!
Now I don't pretend to relate, but I can only imagine how it feels to be a women. Being afraid to walk home alone at night. Always having to look over your shoulder. Keeping the car/house keys in hand while walking to your car/house and using it as a weapon if need be. The anxiety of having to walk through a group of men wondering if your going to be talked down to in a derogatory way. The list goes on and on and on. When will this war on women stop?! Women being rapped in this day and age is more prevalent then ever. I pray for this madness to stop, but praying is only one part of the equation.
The good news is, some of us men care for you deeply and will stand up for you and with you until this mindset and madness has been eradicated from our society. Ladies when you stand up, I will stand up with you, Simonton Say's!
Till next time.
George
God bless you, George! How I wish more men would think and behave like you. My sister and I share a house and we are both getting older-I'm 59, she's 66, and even though we are strong, capable women we are starting to feel uneasy living alone. We have no neighbors anymore and the area has changed so much...there are alot of people acting out of sheer deperation so you never know what will happen. You simply can't live in fear though, that isn't much of a life so we try to pay attention to what is going on around us and hope we are not victimized. I've been a victim of bullying and made fun of all my life because I'm very tall and had weight issues growing up so it's been a challenge dealing with men especially-especially short men (I named it "short men syndrome" when I was just a kid)who felt it was important to challenge me, condemn me, make me feel 'small' so they could feel big and yes, it would even turn sexual at times though I avoided the horrible outcome somehow. I honestly do not understand men and why they behave the way they do. Women are not all that complicated, are we? We just want to love and be loved and be respected by others-in all we do whether it's at home, at work, in politics...in life!
ReplyDeleteHello my dear! It's so nice to hear from you again! I remember you telling me about your issue's with height, but you never went this far in depth. Thank you for confiding in me. I really appreciate you trusting me with your very personal experiences. It's a very troubled world out there and overwhelming to at times to say the least. But it seams you and your sister are strong, independent women like you said, which is very reinforcing. Please know that all children growing up have dealt with some form of bullying whether it was physical and or psychological. What I'm trying to say is your not alone and many can relate. I hope you can take comfort in knowing that. This entitlement that men have has been going on for way too long and must be addressed. There needs to be a world wide shift in perception in regards to gender equality and what it means to be a kind and compassionate person. I'm glad you reached out and we got to chat for a few. Love, George
DeleteMostly, I concur with the preceding reply. My experience primarily comes from men viewing me as an object to either use or own. If I chose to be involved, I wanted respect. But if I did not behave in the way expected of me, I was demeaned, ridiculed, and otherwise not respected.
ReplyDeleteThank you, George, for believing women should be treated with respect for simply being part of the human race. God bless you!
Stephanie - I am very sorry for your having to go through such demeaning and unfair experiences. I can't relate like I said, but I have so much compassion for all you women. All I can say is, hang in there and know there are men out there who care very much for your well being. XOXO George
DeleteThere are so many angles to this issue -- one is that it starts at home, being taught as a child to respect others in spite of their differences. Then, mental illnesses need to be treated with the seriousness of physical ailments. Maybe some of this pointless violence or disrespect could be prevented then. I dealt with a fair amount of danger when I worked in San Francisco in the 80's and 90's, and I worked in HR. I dealt with a death threats (from a mentally ill man who was about 6'5, and I'm 4'10), and was working in the building when a disgruntled client came into our building and killed 8 people in a law firm. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. It terrified my poor family, who worried about my welfare for 5 hours until they saw me and my co-workers escorted out of the building by SWAT team officers. I was very, very lucky. So, I do walk everywhere with caution and awareness (especially after spending so much time in SF).I also believe if we walk with confidence, we are less likely to be a victim of disrespect or violence. I've learned that from experience as well. Personally speaking, I'm very blessed to know a lot of wonderful men in my life, and am grateful for men like you, George. Thanks for looking out for us, George. Your care and concern are greatly appreciated!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing some of your experiences with me. Our world is suffering and people are in pain and they don't know why. This is such a delicate topic and to be honest, I am so drained emotionally from all of this negativity during this past week or so that I can't wait to get on QVC tonight and have some fun. We all deserve it! XOXO George
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